There are three types of blockages in finding the love of your life:
- You are attracted to the people, who are not right for you.
There is more than one reason for that. The first one has to do with the karma. You bring unfulfilled love, unresolved relationships from your past life. If you don’t believe in past lives, look at your parents, grandparents, grand-grandparents. If they have those unfulfilled love stories, chances are that you inherited them also. Then you fill this unbelievable magnetic attraction to one person. Almost like you have no free will, something is deciding instead of you, something inside you. That’s true.
- You don’t see the real value of yourself (you see your strong point as weakness)
Often times that lead you to attract people, who will see you the same ways. And you will avoid (feel no ‘chemistry’) people who actually like your ‘perceivable’ weakness.
For instance, I don’t like to be at the center of attention, I am not very communicative in general. At the same time instead of that, I love to sense what is going on with people around me, how they feel and respond appropriately. Some people don’t like me because of that. While others feel more relaxed around me because they don’t need to impress me.
- You have unresolved emotional blocks (beliefs about love) from your parents leading to self-sabotage.
Most of our models for relationships are from our families, which are more often than not dysfunctional, based on survival instinct. We learn from our parents how to survive, but we have no role models how to love. Survival is all about overcoming fears and find safety. There isn’t a lot of space for love. You learned how to survive, how to be liked and approved of.
You never learned how to open and receive love. You tried to give love but there was nobody to receive it. Your parents inherited fears and survival ways in the relationship with your grandparents.
You tried to love them, but they reject you so many times, that you stooped. Because it was too painful. Now you even don’t remember how to love, how to open. And you certainly don’t trust anyone enough to open up to love you.
READ MORE about emotional blockages HERE