Loving what is?
The first response from people is usually: (mine was too)
Isn’t that like giving up all your dreams and plans for the future and just passively excepting everything that life brings?
Isn’t that like stop being actively involved in your life?
Actually, my experience is that, when I start loving what life brings me, my life became easier, more fluid and more effortless.
Instead of my rational, logical mind making plans and controlling everything, I could relax and wait for life
to bring me what I need to do and leave the rest.
I discovered that when I say yes to everything in front of me, I wound up in places I never, ever would have imagined.
So that sounds great on paper, but what about real life?
How LOVING WHAT IS; brings more love in my relationship
When my son was little, I used to spend a lot of time and effort (and worrying) to plan dates with my spouse.
Because we love outdoor activity, the weather was always something that brought a big question mark on the plans.
Another thing was finding the time that babysitter was available (my mother was the only babysitter that my son was ok with).
And then when finally everything went according to plans, my son got a fever or start coughing.
Then I just gave up on planning the dates.
And suddenly opportunity just came by itself. My son spending playdate with his favorite cousin at my mother house.
The weather cooperates and me and my spouse spending a wonderful day in the mountains.
Now I just let life bring me the best possible ways to spend time with him or not spend time with him.
I just erased one more rule from my relationship rulebook (How to live happily ever after).
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I finally notice that loving what is mean stop planing with limited information that my logical mind has and just allow life to bring opportunities to me.
I find out that Loving what is in a relationship means, that I let my heart (not my emotions) and my wiser inner self-lead my life
and I fired my mind from the position of general manager of my life.
Loving what is & let the universe lead my life
The universe has way more information about everything that I need at the moment if I stop trying to control my life with my analytical, rational mind.
That is the essence of loving what is. Life will bring me the best possible outcome.
Living my relationship as Loving what is
Well, let me tell you how does it look like living Loving what is in real life.
Loving what is versus having my dream honeymoon
we planned honeymoon (actually month long travel before we have kids)
and a few days before he asked me if he could go climbing with his friend during our traveling. You know what that means if we are talking about mountain peak around Month Everest.
That he doesn’t know how long, it could be 6 days, it could be 10. Depend on how long they will wait for good weather to climb.
And I said yes. Oh, I was scared, but I still said yes to that.
The result was that we did not spend the whole time (month) together, but closeness that we experience and what we went thru was much deeper than if we would be physical together
the whole month. Sometimes loving what is mean giving up the best possible scenario that my mind created. And just let the universe plan my life instead.
And the result is always: I get way more love and feel a lot more alive.
Yes, it is scary sometimes, especially if you are standing in the middle of the Himalaya, at the foot of the mountain and wondering if he will come back alive from that mountain.
But because of that, I love more and l love more deeply and I am loved more and more deeply.
Plus it is never boring.
Loving what is versus Planning my life in sync with my dreams
I used to plan everything in my life (which worked great in my job as a software engineer in the bank). I even did not notice, how boring it was, knowing everything in advance.
Only when I stopped with that and unexpected things start to happen (good things) I notice how much more alive I feel when I don’t have everything planned.
My day starts with I wonder what will happen today in our relationship. I could relax and have no relationship goals, no plans for what to do to improve our relationship, to bring romance
back, how to connect with my beloved more.
I just let the life bring me ideas, put them into my heart. My part is just to listen to this subtle whispers of my heart.
And the other part of Loving what is – the story of 4 questions that changed my life is HERE
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