I’ve been there too…
But Working on your relationship can totally be fun!
You just need to follow simple guidance (new #1 rule) for working on your relationship:
Only if it feels good and is fun.
Oh, and it has to be easy too…
I’m *so* done with stressing myself out about something that’s supposed to help me be less stressed.
Know what I mean?
So I only do Relationship Work that’s fun, easy, and feels good now.
Sounds too easy? Impossible?
What if you follow the simple rule:
“If you’re not enjoying the process, then you’re forgot something, you forgot to bring love into the process.”
Working on your relationship should feel good and be enjoyable.
So, what I want to suggest is this…
If the thought of working on your relationship hurts, seems hard, or makes you want to eat a cupcake or watch TV for hours…
The stuff you’ve been doing hasn’t actually been about bringing more Love into your relationship.
It’s been about bringing more Stress into your relationship.
That’s why you still feel yucky even after you’ve done all this work on your relationship.
No more of that, ok?
What if you choose to make sure that any Relationship Work you do from now on is fun, feels good, and is easy?
That’s what I’m all about these days…
And I’ve been having such nice loving experiences…
Do you want to know HOW?
Here are my 4 favorite ways to work on my relationship (that are fun, easy, and feels good)
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- Give up problem-solving
How to focus on creating a safe, supportive, loving space in your relationship
I love to follow the simple advice of John O’Donohue, Irish mystic, and poet who said that healing happens when you shine your kindness and love on the wounded heart, not by scratching the wound over and over again.
“When you really love someone, you shine the light of your soul on the beloved. We know from nature that sunlight brings everything to grow. If you look at flowers early on a spring morning, they are all closed. When the light of the sun catches them, they trustingly open out and give themselves to the new light.”
READ MORE about How to give up problems solving and what to do instead
- Put more love into every word that I say to my partner
I just stop trying to use the right words, worrying about how to speak so that he will hear me, stop stressing out how to say something.
Basically, I just throw away every communication advice that I ever heard.There are so many ways and teaching of how to communicate in a relationship, but most of them a lacking something. What?
They are missing whispers and feelings that give life and love to the words that we communicate with each other. Would you love to add these missing ingredients with this easy couple exercises for communication? READ MORE about ideas how I used that in my life with 5 amazing couple exercises for communication/
The other way I’d been doing it (by stressing myself out and overdoing it) didn’t work.
Bringing enjoyment, play, fun, and creativity into my Relationship Work *did*.
There is one more reason to have fun while you work on your relationship. Love is the absence of fear. You could fully love only when you don’t feel fear.
As Will Thomas said, “There is no fear when you’re having fun.”
So how about you?
Are you curious about how your Relationship Work could be more fun?
Are you curious about how you can “work on your relationship stuff” and enjoy it?
Leave a comment and tell me what you’re thinking about all this…
But only write to me if it would be fun, okay?
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