There are two answers to the question:
How long does it take to get over a breakup?
Do you believe that the breakup happened TO you?
or
Do you wonder if the breakup happened FOR you?
When you believe that breakup happened TO you, your wounded part is actually asking When will this painful feeling stop?
In the second case, you start connecting with your true self inside you and wonder if maybe breakup happened FOR you.
No matter which one is true for you with this 5 minutes of morning and evening routine will shorten that time.
Why does it matter if you believe that it happened FOR you versus TO you?
When your wounded part believe that it’s happened TO you, you will place the blame or judgment for breakup on your ex and that will leave you powerless to change your pain.
While believing that has happened FOR you mean, that you are taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments about the breakup and that gives you the power to release them.
Are you asking from the wounded part inside you?
When somebody asks that question from the place inside him, that is hurting and need somebody to love him and soothe the pain, it could take a long time.
That means that you ask from the space where you feel a lack of love and want a new partner to fill that emptiness. The bigger that empty space inside you, the longer it takes.
You believe that your ex did that TO you and you blame her for your broken heart, you give her the power over you.
You are powerless over how long will it take to get over.
There is nothing wrong with blaming her.
Except that with blaming her, she didn’t just break your heart but also took power over your life away from you.
Until you find the way to release judgment about her, you will have no say so in ending your pain.
She hurt you with breaking up with you and she is doing that in your mind again and again.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Hurt that you feel consist of painful thoughts and emotions attached to those thoughts.
You could use simple process – 4 loving questions to remove those thoughts about her from your mind.
The real meaning of the hurt that you feel
What if the hurt that you feel inside you actually doesn’t belong to you?
What if that hurt is something that was created as a response to what your ex did to you?
The moment you start to let go of something that doesn’t belong to you in the first place, you will make an empty space inside you.
But that empty space is not just empty space.
That is the space that life created for you to fill it with new possibilities, inspirations, desires, compassion, beauty, and love.
The quicker you fill this place with self-love ( or finding things that bring you joy) the sooner you will open the space for a new relationship, that will last.
You don’t need to try to love yourself. But you need to try to get to know the joyful part of you, the curious part of you, the inspired part of you, the part that used to wonder about
the small things that new day will bring.
are you asking from heart, your true self, your inner voice
If you are asking from your heart, that it could happen in no time. Because you are already there, your heart a little bit open to receive love from life.
At first, it will be from the beauty of nature. Then it could be from pets if you are an animal lover. And then from small children and their innocent smiles. (If you have children, that
they are the part of your healing journey from the start.) All these are signs that you are getting over a breakup. Maybe it doesn’t seem that way now if you are in the pain, but when you will be able to look back, it will be more clear.
There is the third answer In reality because breakup causes a chemical reaction of your brains, you need usually 30 days to rewire the brains and cause a different chemical reaction.
That’s why 5 minutes of morning and evening routine could shorten the time needed for healing your heart.
At the end what is the answer to How long does it take to get over a breakup?
Only you could decide.
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