We don’t find love, the love finds us when we stop searching for love, looking for it, following 21 steps to find it.
And doing all kind of crazy thing that worked for others. Just because they worked for others does not mean it will work for you.
So often we think is about appearance and personality and chemistry and physical attraction. Most of the time we are not even aware that is something else that draws us to another person.
Instead of searching for love stop doing these things:
– Stop trying to be the ideal woman from the cover of the magazine to get love.
– Stop trying to change your appearance, your look to get the love.
– Stop trying to be attractive to get love.
– Stop wearing the outfit that will get you the love.
I’m not saying to stop doing all that. But do it for you.
Please do all these things if it brings you joy. Do it if it makes you feel more beautiful. Do it if it makes you feel more worthy of love.
But above all do it just out of the pleasure that it brings you.
– Stop planning how and where to find him, your dream come true ideal mate for the lifetime.
See that as stop giving your mind control over your life and let life presents an opportunity that mind could not even think of.
– Stop making the list of dream come true qualities about him.
Give up expectations about love, relationship, your perfect partner
The problem with expectations is that behind every expectation, every need is our yearning for love or for safety.
But no matter how many expectations will your partner fulfill, you will feel safe or loved for a few seconds, sometimes even for a day, but this feeling will never last.
Then, he will need to fulfill your needs all over again.
If you want to find the love of your life, expectations are the totally wrong path to follow.
Focus on your heart
When you are in your mind, your thoughts are full of what wants, needs. The moment when you focus on your heart and just feel your heart, the thoughts stop.
In that brief moment you don’t need love, you stop searching, you are enough.
And that’s the place and space, where the love of your life can find you.
It will take time. But more often you came back to that place, to that feeling inside you, the closer the love of your life will be.
It’s about the vibration of love that you will start to emanate.
That’s vibrations of your heart will guide you to the exact place at the right moment in time to let love find you.
The heart is the place, where love came from. When you feel at home in your heart, that opens you up to your inner wisdom, inner strength and joy.
Instead of being needy of love, your mind starts to follow your heart wisdom.
Start dreaming big instead of searching
And start daydreaming, reading a romantic novel, reading real-life stories about love, watching movies. Dream big times.
And leave planning to the universe, the god, the life.
Practice listening to your inner voice and your heart.
A lot of times we just dismiss this voice inside us that whispering us, go there, do that, call your friend from high school, visit your aunt, go to that store, attend that class.
You are so focused on finding the love that you dismiss everything that has nothing to do with finding love. On the outside. But if you followed all these suggestions, you would find out,
that these suggestions are actually trying to get you to the place, where you will find love. These suggestions are trying to change that parts of you that are not serving you, parts that you overgrown long ago. The suggestions to attend the class is more about feeling alive and because of that feeling worthy of love than any role that you are trying to play and be to get the love.
Start following your joy. What excited you, what brings the spark into your eyes?
Do that more.
And suddenly you will find yourself in the exact right place at the right time to meet him.
Because the secret of your friend finding the love of her life was in how she feels, how much she feel, how much she was just being herself, enjoying herself. Now being in the right place at the right time, wearing the perfect dress.
It was the feeling of enjoying being herself that put her in the right place at the right time.
When you will be just yourself, enjoying yourself, even for a few minutes in the day, the universe could finally organize and plan for you to meet the love of your life.
But to open the door for that, only you have the key.
The key is to be who you are, enjoying yourself. Sometimes a few minutes per day is all that it takes for the door to the love of your life to open.
Secret to stop searching for love and being single
The quickest way to find the love of your life is to open your heart and stop hiding your true self.
Only you have the key to open your heart to let the love of your life in.
You need to stop looking for the love of your life until you find the key to open your heart.
Before that, no matter which path you take it will never lead you to the love of your life.
After you will find the key and unlock your heart and your true self, no matter which path you will take it will lead you to the love of your life.
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