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5 steps to calm anxiety

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As soon as you are born (actually even before, in your mother’s womb) you start bonding with your parents.
For the first few years, you are entirely dependent on them.
Your parents are responsible for your physiological needs (food, clothes, shelter…) as well as emotional (soothing, loving, caring, etc.) needs.
If they are sensitive towards and attuned to these needs, you build a secure attachment with them and feeling of safety.
You learn indirectly that you can rely on, and thus trust other people.
You literally LEARN to FEEL SAFE in your body and with other people.

But if you perceive that your needs are not met and that your parents are not emotionally available or responsive when you seek their attention, affection or support, you learn that you could not trust other people and that you could not relay on them.
You learn that is NOT SAFE to be with other people. Instead you learn strategies to protect yourself. You could never relax. You’re always on alert, prepared to protect yourself.

Your brain get wired for danger. When you grow up and live in more safe environment, you don’t know how to relax and stop protecting yourself all the time.

That’s why I created THESE 28 days journey  to HELP YOU.

You need to teach yourself how to be calm in the moment.

The way to feel safe in your body is to first feel safe in your environment.

To achieve that, you need to move away from painful past and away from fearful future.
The way to feel safe in your environment is to be here and now in this moment. Not in the past, where all unsafe, painful memories drag you again and again.
Not in the future where all the fearful scenarios in your head lead you so many times during the day.
To feel safe you need to be here and now first.

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Hi, I'm Jollanda.
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