Imagine if we treated broken hearts with the same respect and concern we have for broken arms? Maybe we need to rethink the way we deal with emotional pain. Broken heart could not heal on it’s own.
Love is one of the most exhilarating emotions we experience–unfortunately, it is also one of the most painful and sometimes traumatic. Did you know that the unresolved emotional scars from a broken heart can manifest as a “love trauma syndrome”? As we
List of books to read when you are ready to star healing your broken heart
The Love Trauma Syndrome – Richard B Rosse
It’s all about how to Free Yourself From The Pain Of A Broken Heart.
Love is one of the most exhilarating emotions we experience–unfortunately, it is also one of the most painful and sometimes traumatic. The unresolved emotional scars from a broken heart can manifest as a “love trauma syndrome.” Until now, a love trauma was thought to precipitate other common psychiatric conditions, such as depression or adjustment disorders, but these generic psychiatric ailments are not adequate for articulating the full and unique character of the condition following love trauma. The Love Trauma Syndrome: Free Yourself from the Pain of a Broken Heart fills the need of patients feeling isolated, ashamed, or alone in their anguish. Dr. Richard Rosse, a psychiatrist with expertise in the area of emotional breakdown, provides a concrete path to help people understand this condition. At times, the syndrome can seriously diminish the sufferer’s quality of life, and dramatically impair social, academic, and occupational activities.
Healing Trauma by Peter A Levine
If you suffer from the Love Trauma Syndrome, than this is practical step-by-step book about healing the love trauma. No theory, just simple steps. I wish I came across this books sooner. It’s one of the best book to relieve painful emotions of losing love. It will help you to feel little bit better in very short time. It will help you to gradually go back to your body, to feel bit by bit the pain, that is at the beginning of the heart-break so overwhelming, that you do everything possible to run away.
Laurel Parnell Tapping In
This is a step by step guide to Activating Your Healing Resources Through Bilateral Stimulation, with other words with simple tapping on your knees or solder, left and right, left and right.
When I first tried it I was skeptical, but it’s more powerful that it seems at the beginning.
With the increasing popularity in the use of reflexology and healing touch, tapping is another wonderful way to heal heavy emotions stored in the body. The process centers around what is known as the EMDR related method for stress relief and emotional balance.
I Know I’m In There Somewhere by Helene Brenner
As somebody said: This book was an immense help when I found myself divorced after having lost my identity in my husband and marriage. Helped me on the road to getting back to who I really am.
It will show you:
– How to embrace, rather than fix, the Inner Voice that has been there all along
– How to distinguish the Outer Voices (the expectations of the people around you) from Your Inner Voice (the voice of your true self that goes beyond intuition and guides you wisely towards what is right for you)
– What to do when you feel that the essence of who you are is being stifled by external demands and expectations
With Hellen own words:
“I can’t tell you how many women have walked into my office trying to order themselves to get over their suffering. “Snap out of it!” they tell themselves. “Live with it.” “Deal with it.” “You made your bed, now lie in it.” “Count your blessings.” But if there’s one thing my therapy practice has taught me without a doubt, it is this: The army boot camp approach to yourself does not work. Not in the long run. The only thing that will end your distress and help you make lasting changes is compassion. Compassion”
If you are familiar with Eugene Gendlin work about Focusing than this is basically the process that Helen use in her book. In my experience she has a way to explain the process for me much better than Eugene did.
The next book that will help you deal with memories and emotions would be
Laurel Parnell: Attachment-Focused EMDR: Healing Relational Trauma
This is another self help practical manual that show you ways to deal with memories of the past, that you would love to leave behind, but keep coming back. I’s about revering the brain and releasing painful emotions that keep bringing this memories back like on a loop. And keep hurting you again and again.
I’s about EMDR process and it’s for therapist, but I did a lot of the processes on my own and it worked. I would not recommend to do it on your own, if you haven’t already done tons of self help work on yourself before.
But if you did and if you feel relatively safe in your body (using similar practice like Peter A. Levine work above) and know how to bring yourself back to here and now and back to safety, if memories overwhelm you, that check and see if will help you.
Music of the Soul: Composing Life Out of Loss by oy S. Berger
Music has a unique ability to elicit a whole range of powerful emotional responses in people – even so far as altering or enhancing one’s mood – as well as physical reactions.
Music is as much about beginnings as endings, and thus the book moves through life’s losses into its new beginnings, using musical expression to help the bereaved find meaning in loss and hurt, and move forward with their lives. With numerous exercises and examples for implementing the use of music in healing from loos of love, the book offers a practical approach to help you deal with broken heart.
Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships
The last book to read is the book to read if you are about to give up on love. It could give you a glimpse of hope that not everything is lost and tame your fears of future relationship.
For me is something that I would expect that somebody taught me in school instead of tons of useless stuff that I never need in life anyway.
It could even help you to avoid being broken hearted again.
Every day, we hear of relationships failing and questions of whether humans are meant to be monogamous. Love Sense presents new scientific evidence that tells us that humans are meant to mate for life. Dr. Johnson explains that romantic love is an attachment bond, just like that between mother and child, and shows us how to develop our “love sense” — our ability to develop long-lasting relationships.
Love is not the least bit illogical or random, but actually an ordered and wise recipe for survival. Love Sense covers the three stages of a relationship and how to best weather them; the intelligence of emotions and the logic of love; the physical and psychological benefits of secure love; and much more. Based on groundbreaking research, Love Sense will change the way we think about love.
books to read when you have a broken heart
Byron Katie – how to get over infidelity pain
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